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I am still here,
two days later,
where you left me.
I wanted to call you.
I wanted to write.
I wanted to say that everything was all right.
But it's not.
And who should I talk to-
`cause you wouldn't care.
There's no one to turn to-
`cause you are not there.
The city, these faces,
mean so little to me.
Everything's changed;
it's not the way it should be.

I walk thru the park,
like I'm holding your hand.
It's all so strange
in this colourless land.
I can't breathe.
Who could I run to
when you are not here?
Who would I come to
when nothing is clear?
All of this means nothing to me;
something changed how I thought it would always be.
I am still here,
two days later,
where you left me.
***
Lydia, he said, you put it all in boxes…
the tarnished, the gleaming, the solid, the unseeming.
Never once did you stop to think, there might be more to it,
something to outrule it, before you shoved it all away.
***
Never before, and only now and then.
I've paid prices I'll never pay again.
The words, the touches, the tears,
searching for numbers to confirm all my fears.
I knew, but I never knew.

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Normally, I don't post quiz/survey content here, but this one was pretty nifty and relatively on target. You can take it here, if you like. :)

WHO YOU ARE
You're a pillar of strength
You're a strong, sensible, and quiet person. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Life should be “balanced” with plenty of time to relax, think, and have fun! You have a shy and reserved exterior that can make deep connections with others a challenge. You're not someone who “wears her heart on her sleeve” so those close to you don't always know how you feel. However, a lot of the important things about you have been saved for someone who's willing to invest spending time one-on-one to get to know you.
On most days, you need to get away from other people (including your loved ones) and have quiet time alone to rest and recharge your emotional and social batteries.
While others debate about where to go and what to do, you can honestly say “I don't care.” Even though you're an easy-going woman and open to anything, some people get frustrated because you don't express your opinion or they see your cooperation as indifference and lack of involvement.
Some days when you're in a bad mood and can't hide it, co-workers or friends take it personally and think you're upset at them.

SEX
Making love and lots of it
As you probably know, you have a higher sex drive than most! There's a wild side behind your serious and professional exterior. You enjoy exploring new and fun things with your partner.

WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR
He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who's smart, insightful, and willing to fight for what he believes in. He thinks and feels things deeply. For example, he cares about community, social and environmental issues, and brings good ideas for how to make things better. He's shy and a little hard to get to know. But it's worth the effort! Alone with him, he'll be more likely to talk about his dreams for the future and what matters most to him. Together you can find a very deep and lasting intellectual and emotional connection.
You don't expect your partner to be in a good mood all the time. You understand that sometimes your partner will be down, get pessimistic or worry too much. These days are balanced by the many good days the two of you will share. In fact, you share a number of positive qualities, including:

He's really easy to get along with and won't boss you around.
He's exhausted by lots of social activities and needs “down time” alone or with you, reading books or watching videos, to recharge his batteries.
You both share a cheerful and optimistic outlook on life. Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 8% (or 1 in 12 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there's a larger group, 26% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like.
Almost three-fourths (72%) of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you'd have a negative reaction to 28% (or 1 in 4 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

Opposites sometimes attract
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. Still, sometimes differences can help create a “spark” and excitement about each other. Part of you wants to be more like him, or at least have his unique style in your life. He could be good for you in many ways:

Because his eyes are always on the future, he can help you plan ahead and get excited about goals without being bogged down in day-to-day practicalities.

Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially “high maintenance.” We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your “quirks,” or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your “ideal” man:

On days when his mind is clouded by sadness or worries, you're willing to offer extra support and patience.
You can enjoy his enthusiasm for new ideas without taking his plans, which are often unrealistic, too seriously.
You can honor his need to be quiet and have “alone time.”

Downside of your “ideal”
In addition to his quirks, your “ideal” personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious “flaws.” But remember, these quirks are the “flip side of the coin,” or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

He may talk a lot about his career ambitions and dreams for how to improve your community or the environment, but never takes practical steps to get there.

Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Your responses suggest that you are pretty accepting and tolerant of shortcomings. No major personality “deal breakers” or reasons to rule out potential dates were identified.

Trade-offs you'll face
Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
Cares deeply for a few very close friends. Has little desire to branch out and meet new people.
Comes up with lots of great ideas about how to do things better or improve the world. Creative ideas are often impractical or unrealistic.
Tries to balance an objective view of problems with compassion for the people and feelings involved. Competing drives from your rational vs. compassionate points of view can stand in the way of making decisions.
Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything. How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.

Is he sexually compatible?
You seem okay with, or even prefer, someone who's not quite as sexually charged as you. Often this type of pair can offer sexual balance to each other.

What's ahead for you sexually?
You will probably experience some kind of sexual miscommunication or lack of interest with a partner. This situation can be especially hard for someone like you. Even though you don't feel comfortable talking about sex, you'll need to draw on your natural honesty to share your feelings with your partner. Somehow you have to find a balance between your strong and “together” exterior and the “wild,” sexy side within. A good man will understand your mixed emotions and be willing to take things at a comfortable pace.

How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 30.7% (or 1 in 3 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

What's dating all about to you?
Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!

You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because your mind is so busy making sure you say and do the right things on dates, it's hard for your deeper and caring self to come through. It feels risky to share this part of yourself. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man.

Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you “warts and all.” Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.

Do men like your type?
Notice that 82% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 25% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.

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silly girl, don't hope, don't wish, don't pray. just go about your boring life, live each boring day. tomorrow shampoo, shave, and pluck. do your girly beauty thing. with any ounce of luck, the phone will ring.

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Sometimes I feel like a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs!

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Answers are usually easier than we want to think. It's the questions that will tear a person apart.

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