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So Very Glaringly NSFW
Thanks so much to Violet Blue for bringing this to my attention!
The Price Of Pleasure is an incredibly biased “documentary” and obvious piece of propaganda that really isn’t even worthy of a rant from me. (It has the same old “OMG, Pr0n is so evil, immoral and degrading!!111 / We cannot have an open and honest dialogue about it!!!11111″ “It is all bad and if you think differently you are just wrong and a bad person too!!!1111″ sort of sentiments and calculated choice of interviewees and “sources” that you’d expect.)
However, I have always believed it IS important to know your enemy…. So, if you’re so inclined, you can watch nearly an hour of the film @ Media Education Foundation website.
I truly wanted to be inspired to have discussion about the topics raised, but I’m left thinking there are so many people that “just don’t get it” and therefore, there really isn’t anything to discuss. They don’t want to hear any dissenting opinions. They don’t care. The issues aren’t up for debate with Them. I’m not going to waste my time on Those People. This post was more than enough “air time” for Them.
But, oh, one question… where is the 2257 link on the site for the film? Or are they exempt because they are only using adult content to show how reprehensible it is? Hmm….
Free Fun-n-Games with Hot Chicks!
I am a panelist on Match Game XXX this Saturday October 11th at 7pm Eastern (and it is my birthday, woohoo). I’ll be dressed as villain Boris Badenov from Rocky & Bullwinkle. (I look sexy in a moustache!) So, if you don’t mind some tits, asses and cocks on your screen, come watch and even play along!!! You can win a VIP Membership to Rude.com and see a whole bunch of hot stuff for free.The show is free to watch, but you’ll need to create an account, which is also free to do! I get commission for referring you, so please sign-up @ http://www.rude.com/TousledElegance?joinThe direct link to view the show is http://rude.com/ls/D6R4hzU93z4, or you can find it under Live Shows > Sponsored Group Shows. The loverly TrinitySaij hosts.
You’ve Got Male….
Reading an article [http://www.wishtv.com/global/story.asp?s=9115439] about a local teen who emailed a pic of a random wang to the entire school. This quote made me lol:
“What if you sent it to someone’s house and their parents aren’t home and a child opens it? I mean that’s just ridiculous. I don’t believe it’s the school’s fault. I mean, the internet just worries me,” said Laura Morefield, a parent.”
It never ceases to amaze me how clueless parents can be and how innocent they think their kids are.
I mean, you should definitely look at porn with your Mom & Dad, never by yourself! (You can’t handle the thoughts your mind will have and the things your body will do!) In fact, I’m going to invite my parents over to supervise a cam show now. And, yeah, you’re right, the internet is very worrisome, so don’t bother to learn about it; let’s just not use it at all.
D/s & My Fetishes
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Based on my physical appearance [and possibly my independent personality], people often assume I am a Domme. I used to get kick out of that. Sure, I was aggressive in the pursuit of male sexual partners (however, not females, but that is an entirely different issue). But in the sex act itself, I was submissive – behind closed doors (and *only* there) I liked to be explicitly told what to do, how to do it, talked *at* degradingly, have all my holes “used” for the purpose of physical pleasure, shown off/displayed, shared, handled roughly, etc.
Sex has always been more mental than physical for me anyway. I’ve always believed that the “best” subs (and I sort of snort at that description, but can’t come up with another) are such because they understand their choices and the science of them. Likewise, I feel that is part of what makes them appropriate for a particular Master and vice versa – that innate comprehension of the entirety of their roles and how they mesh. In a way, one could argue that pledging yourself to submission is actually a dominant act because it is exercising your Free Will, even if that decision is to give it up/hand the reins to someone else. That’s a fair assessment, but whether the choice to do so is so major that it overrides anything else the Lifestyle itself encompasses makes for an interesting debate. let’s save it for another time.
Continuing…
I reasoned that my submissiveness was because I was so in control of my own life that it was necessary to kick back and lose control. (Well, also since reverence and compliments in general make me uncomfortable. I don’t trust the motivations for it and doubt the sincerity of it.)
It follows that as my circumstances have changed, so have my preferences…. It seems I get enough abuse at work, that I no longer want/need it in my personal life :P Yes, my job has altered my personality that much! I miss the person I was, but I’m stuck here, so I have to adapt.
Now, I find my tendencies and fantasies are more geared towards me being the Dominant figure. There are things that I have had an idle interest in purely on an aesthetic level or as clinical subject matter. Those are becoming more appealing to explore – by explore, I don’t mean just reading about them or looking at imagery of them, but *trying* them. Hopefully, if you’ve somehow managed to skim this far that statement will grab your interest and lead you to ask, “What, specifically?” :o
Although I have changed a lot, I still have many of the same fetishes in general: glasses, thinly penciled eyebrows, thick lipstick, heavy makeup, uniforms, roleplay, shaving, brunettes, redheads, asians. I have a few more fixations these days that are from more of a Domme perspective…
Panties: men touching/smelling/tasting/wearing/masturbating on or with mine
Feet: teasing/humiliating/masturbating men with my bare/dirty/painted/pedicured/stocking/heel or boot encased feet
Cuckolding: NOT them being forced to watch me with others, but rather me forcing men to be pleasured by other men
Strap-Ons: [see cuckolding]
Verbal Degradation: [self explanatory]
Crossdressing: men in pretty outfits
The easiest way for me to test the waters with these is probably online. Fetish Play is not completely uncharted territory for me because I have always catered to Fetishes that intrigue me. I’m not opposed to a Gratuity (not sure I like the connotations of “Tribute”) for these types of Sessions, but I’m really not interested in the Financial Domination scene, which might be a related, um, Request or Requirement from, uh, Clientele.
Maybe some of you would call me The Reluctant Domme, haha… I genuinely cherish the bond formed with Fetishists for reasons that are not strictly monetary and absolutely want the arrangement to be mutually satisfying for each of us. If we both get what we’re hoping for out of it, whatever that may be, I would consider it successful and positive. I’m not posturing. I can be stern and caring!
If any of this is of interest to you, I’ll be utilizing Rude, Niteflirt and perhaps a few other sites for private internet encounters of the close kind ;) I also still offer custom photos and videos; just inquire by email.
Oh, and for Women with their own adult websites, I would be open to discussing Guest Modeling, so please get in touch if you are in need of that. Note: I would really like to help out TastyTrixie.com, AdorableAudrey.com, and XXXmina.com in exchange for free access to your members areas. In addition to the above detailed Fetishes, some niches I might fit into are Gothic, BBW/Plumper, Exotic/Ethnic (Middle Eastern or Latina), POV and Reality.
Happy Perving! =)
Mental Plethora
I have a lot of thoughts racing around in my head tonight. If I don’t put them down on, uh, paper (or weblog), I’m going to hurt someone or lose something. I keep getting distracted from everything I try to do… cooking (dangerous time to daydream!), reading a book (omg, the killer screwed up and 2 women have been found alive!), eat (I keep pushing the plate away so I can stare off into space, because staring helps me focus my thoughts), or watch tv (I gazed at the screen for a lot longer than I want to admit without hearing or seeing that it was “snow”). Now watching this cursor blink, I’m hoping to be lulled into a state in which I can put the pictures in my mind into words… better yet, words that make sense. ;)
The Election:
Voting has never been about Red or Blue for me. I’m going to cast my ballot for the candidates whose views most closely mirror my own. This time, it is neither Republican, Democrat or even Libertarian. I don’t see a vote for what one believes in as “throwing away your vote.” Use your Right to do what you think is right. It does not always have to be a choice of the lesser of two evils.
I don’t care about the delivery/content of Sarah Palin’s speech at the convention, that her teenager is pregnant, that she’s accused of some ethical violations, or that she is female. I am tired of hearing about these things over and over. The only thing of consequence to me in respect to her is where she stands on the issues. And her stances both horrify and terrify me. And here’s something that will be appalling to you… I almost wish there had been/would be an assassination attempt on someone- just to shake things up. “Not a very nice thing to say,” I know, but ignoring actual important news items in favour of speculations on this circus sideshow isn’t either. At least give us something interesting if you won’t give us something informative. (That’s tongue in cheek. Keep your shirt on.)
Things You Might Not Know About Me:
My fear of heights is paralytic and I get really twitchy about water in my face too. I scream and climb on surfaces when I see bugs; they make such an impression on me that I feel like they are crawling all over me hours later and I’m still glancing around for more. I rarely watch a movie or read a book twice unless it has had a major impact on me. If I already know what’s going to happen and how it ends, it usually cannot hold my attention. However, no matter how many times I’ve seen a film, I still can’t quote lines or recognize them when other people do. The written word sticks with me better. I love sleeping more than * almost * anything. Ideally, I like to be out for 16-18 hours. The trouble is, no matter how much I sleep, I still wake up tired! I like songs with a hook, plenty of guitars, political angst or lyrics that bring back painful memories. I hold such unpopular beliefs as: Eddie Cochran > Elvis, The Beatles weren’t the greatest band ever and The Kinks might have been the very first punk band. Growing up, we once had 34 cats. I may very well become the old cat lady in the rocking chair. It should go without saying that I also adore LOLCats. I am living proof that there isn’t always a correlation between kinkiness/bedroom skills, liking spicy foods, being a good dancer. As a kid, my parents had to fight with me to get me to eat meat. I’d always go for the veggies. I still prefer them. I want a job where I make a difference in people’s lives. I also want a job that does not require me to speak with people or see people – ever. Ironic. I have an a slight aversion to body hair, but am more disgusted by my own sweat. I can look at the goriest crime scene or horror flick, but the sight of my own blood makes me woozy. Eyebrows are the first thing I notice about a girl, followed by hair. I don’t think I have a foot fetish per se, but doing a little tease for those who do REALLY excites me. I like practicality, rationality and courtesy. It irks me when people do things the hard way/without common sense, or don’t ever think to do little things like hold open a door for someone. Niceness is on it’s way out and that saddens me. I get vertigo from flying in an airplane, but it doesn’t stop me. My job has changed me into a person I don’t want to be. When I was little, I was bit by a dog that looked like Benji and had to have 6 shots in the stomach. When I was about 9, I was in a car accident, caused by a drunk driver, in which our vehicle hit a ditch, flew over a fence and flipped a couple of times before uprighting itself; the driver was my Father. In college, I seriously considered marrying the Greek exchange student so he could stay in the US.
Assaults On Sexuality:
Am I the only person that isn’t offended by being called a Slut or Whore? I’m more bothered that people say that as if it is a bad thing, that they use those words as insults. As long as no one is being hurt by it, why is fucking for fun and pleasure so bad? I have never understood that mindset. And, I don’t even need to mention the dichotomy of screwing = male prowess versus female impurity more than in passing.
Reality Tv:
I am a tad embarrassed to admit I’m watching Big Brother 10. Reality, my butt. But, heh, I am intrigued *seeing* the way people think and the crappy things they will do to eachother. It’s like that awful scene you can’t seem to look away from. Morbid fascination. Yep. Is that why you’re reading this? :)
Red Rose = Deflowered
I feel a little twitchy after reading about Karen Fletcher’s obscenity case: http://avn.com/law/articles/31669.html. I think even those of us that are vigilant about complying with the law have to be afraid now. Is your text obscene? Are you “using an interactive computer service to distribute obscene materials?”The broadness of the definition, the way it could spiral out of control… I understand why so many of my favourites have seemingly disappeared from their old haunts.
Verdict: Obscene
Jurors Convict Adult Film Producer
While I don’t care for Max Hardcore’s films, the decision itself, for reasons that should go without saying, troubles me. There’s something in particular that really bothers me though…
Just hours into their deliberations on Wednesday, jurors sought to clarify the meanings of several words and phrases in their jury instructions, including “morbid and degraded,” “unhealthy interest in sex,” and “candid interest in sex.” The judge refused their request to use a dictionary, and said they should rely on their common sense.
I feel very strongly that the Jury’s right to request clarification or innocuous materials like a dictionary is absolutely vital to the process. Something to be included in the appeal? We shall see!
There’s also another Obscenity trial coming up to keep tabs on… Ira Isaacs.